Not sure where to start
with pegging?

Yes — with the right prep and equipment. The key safety points: Use plenty of lube. The anus doesn't self-lubricate. A thick, water-based or hybrid lube is essential. Silicone lube lasts longer but can damage silicone toys. Start small. For beginners, choose a toy with an insertable diameter of 1"–1.25". You can always go bigger later. Starting too large is the #1 reason people have a bad first experience. Go slow. The receiver should control the pace, especially early on. Communicate constantly. If anything hurts, stop and add more lube. Use body-safe materials only. Medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, or borosilicate glass. Avoid jelly, PVC, or TPE — they're porous and can harbor bacteria.

For complete beginners, we recommend: Insertable diameter: 1"–1.25" (roughly finger-width). This is enough to feel something without being overwhelming. Insertable length: 4.5"–5.5". You don't need much length — most of the nerve endings are in the first 2–3 inches. Extra length gives you grip and control. Shape: A gently tapered tip makes insertion much easier than a blunt head. If prostate stimulation is the goal, look for a slight upward curve. Common mistake: Buying something "realistic" with a thick head. Realistic shapes look nice but the flared glans can be difficult for beginners. Smooth, tapered toys are much more forgiving.

It depends on how you want to play: Traditional harness + dildo is the most versatile and recommended setup. You can mix and match dildos as you gain experience. Look for a 3-strap or jockstrap style for the best stability. Underwear-style harnesses (like boxer briefs with an O-ring) are the least intimidating option. Easy to put on, comfortable, but offer less stability during vigorous movement. Strapless / double-ended (like the Fun Factory Share) let the pegger feel stimulation too. Downside: they require strong pelvic floor muscles to stay in place, and many people need a harness anyway. Solo play? You don't need a harness at all. A dildo with a suction cup base or a dedicated prostate massager works great on its own.

For silicone toys: Use water-based lube. Silicone lube can degrade silicone toys over time. Good picks: Sliquid Sassy (thicker, made for anal), or any quality water-based lube without glycerin. For glass or steel toys: Any lube works — water-based, silicone, or hybrid. Silicone lube (like Überlube) lasts longer and needs fewer reapplications. How much? More than you think. Apply generously to both the toy and the receiving area. Reapply whenever things feel dry — water-based lube especially needs topping up. Avoid: Numbing lubes (you need to feel if something is wrong), oil-based lubes with condoms (they break down latex), and anything with glycerin or parabens for sensitive skin.

Traditional strap-on wins for reliability: • Stays in place during any position or pace • Pegger has full control of depth and angle • Can swap dildos for different sizes • Works for all experience levels Strapless / double-ended wins for sensation: • Pegger feels internal stimulation too • Looks and feels more natural • No straps or buckles to deal with The catch: Most strapless toys need strong pelvic floor muscles. Many people buy one expecting it to "just work" and end up frustrated when it slips out. A common compromise: use a strapless toy with a harness for backup stability. Our recommendation: Start traditional. Try strapless once you're both comfortable with the basics.

Silicone, steel, and glass (non-porous) can be fully sterilized: • Wash with warm water and mild soap after every use • Boil for 3–5 minutes, or run through the top rack of a dishwasher (no soap) • Or use a 10% bleach solution, then rinse thoroughly Storage: Keep toys in individual cloth bags or clean containers. Don't let silicone toys touch each other — they can react and degrade. Harnesses: Most fabric harnesses are machine-washable. Leather harnesses need leather cleaner and should be air-dried. Replace when: You notice cuts, tears, discoloration, or a sticky/tacky surface on silicone. These signs mean the material is breaking down.